"Throughout this book, I felt Bruce had a secret window into my own life and private thoughts. Many private feelings I am currently dealing with were addressed and revealed in a manner that made me feel it is not only normal, but I am truly not alone in this. I was surprised that I cried while reading it and the comfort that the words brought me. I read tons of self-help books, among other types of books, and this book actually gives me hope and things to look forward to. My tears were from the fact that I am facing the words I read. I have been getting negative feedback from outside sources and these words reassured me not to listen, keep them out of your life and do what is right. The section on the other home/parent opened my eyes and freed me. I did not go into reading this book thinking it would help me on such a deep emotional level." ~Dorothy Justice, Vice Chair-Community Action Partnership

April 11, 2012

10 Rules For Your Day When Life Hands You Lemons - Don't Make Lemon-Aid

When life hands you lemons, throw them right back
Life's Lemons / Moyan_Brenn
Throw them right back. Life has a way of being your teacher; sometimes you are going to get a hard lesson. The timing may not be agreeable either, but you grieve and then you pick yourself up by your bootstraps and you move forward. 

For the single parent, supplant a smile on your face. If you have a significant other, you don’t need me to tell you. Either way, your misfortune doesn’t necessitate personally involving your children. They don’t own your problem and certainly don’t need to be impacted by stray emotions as a result.

Keep moving. Don’t let them see you cry. Don’t let them see you sweat. Keep moving. Your children are going to know something is up and you won't be able to hide emotions from your loved ones; they know your mannerisms and nuances perhaps better than anyone may. Nevertheless, don’t let your children absorb your pain when it comes to your predicament. 

Show them you know they know, but that you own your problem and you will work through it. Allow your teens to be consumed in their own lives;  they may not fight you on that and life doesn’t really stop for anyone. Provide your little ones additional comfort. Share with all in the gift of compassion and humility.
Here’s something to take with you, if not just for the day, then better if it stays with you:
Rules for your Daily Life ©

1. Don’t be sensitive, relax

2. Do not accept nonsense

3. Be yourself

4. Feel confident you are ok

5. No matter what others actions, what others say, be you
6. Find peace within, recall what’s inside
7. Be humble

8. Surrender to the sh*t, its all good
9. Believe in yourself
10. You are a remarkable, wonderful human being
© All Rights Reserved, December 2007
Permission to copy for personal use. Put on a business card and laminate; let these words resonate through your day. Keep moving. Keep smiling. If it’s in your spirit, pray.

© 2012 Bruce Buccio