A while ago I too had gone through a divorce and while it wasn't a terribly nasty breakup, it wasn't a walk in the park either. No one really plans for a divorce, but it happens- I was at the very young age of 34 and with 4 very young beautiful girls ages 2, 4, 6 and 8 with my youngest still in diapers.
I was lost and confused and quite frankly scared! I sat at work in my office with my face literally in my hands. I had no real direction where I was going or what I was going to do.
I just knew I had to keep moving. Adjusting to a new life with four little ones is no easy process, but we learned together what was important and we grew together.
I played by the rules and I focused, loved and made my kids a priority. I found a way through mutual understanding and we developed a bond. This doesn't happen over night- they developed trust in me.
I kept my personal life private. I grew with the new changes in my life. I changed my career and eventually started my own company. I learned so much about myself by striking out on new opportunities, chasing my dreams, but I never lost sight of my kids.
When I learned my children were struggling with verbal and emotional abuse and their mothers bad personal choices and addiction, I requested an emergency stay in U.S. Court and brought my children home full-time.
Several years later and looking back, now that I'm empty nesting, I realize this was a long hard arduous task with many peaks and valleys and no one should have to do it alone.
My family and friends and other coaches repeatedly told me I should take this hard work, my success and help others.
They're right and this is my story about surviving divorce with children.
Bruce Buccio is : Author of "Parenting After Divorce: Rebuilding Your Life And Reaffirming the Relationships that Matter (2013).
