Adjusting To Life After Divorce

So, you've split. You have participated in one of life’s biggest changes. Divorce papers have been filed and preliminary hearings have likely started. You may have a separation agreement. You’ve created a new household status and you are settled in to a new home. The kids are acclimating to their new living arrangements. You don’t know what tomorrow brings, but you managed to get through another day. Now what?

The beginning of the next chapter in your life. 

You know the tasks at hand and you work through the motions to make a new life, get comfortable, and then out of nowhere it hits you--life will be different. For me it was when I received delivery of my new bedroom furniture and I was figuring where to fit my clothes in the dresser drawers.  Oddly, at this time, I was confronted with the revelation I was on my own. 

21 Not-So-Obvious Ways to Love and Support Your Children

There are more creative ways to support and love your children than the obvious, so they are subsequently preparing even at a young age for life ahead.

1)    Learn to understand your child’s world - During conversation over dinner I would learn and understand my daughter's world listening to her ideas, thoughts, and imagination without judgment. This was my opportunity to show my children individually I’m vested, they are important, and I approve of them lovingly and with acceptance.

2)    Explore together, learn together, grow together - Every opportunity I had, I did my best to bring the outside world to my children through new experiences. Some would eventually become family rituals

New Household Status

Congratulations, you are single again! Congratulations? Really!?! We both know it wasn’t exactly in your plans. You have kids and a whole host of new responsibilities including possibly working with an adversarial co-parent. Lucky you, right? You now have what’s universally called, baggage- more good news! It just keeps getting better.

With your new household status you most likely will move into something smaller than you are accustomed, lose married friends as the division of circles commences, go on a household shopping spree, cope with adjusting to co-parenting roles, and then dating and new relations! That’s just the surface, unfortunately.

With your new status brings new emotions and challenges that are unfamiliar to you. Transitioning from married life with children is not an easy task no matter how you look at it or how well you adjust or acclimate to change. It’s all in your perspective.

Your emotions will attempt to get the best of you. Moving is stressful let alone going through a separation and split with a long time partner. Newness is challenging. The more dramatic, the bigger your emotions if

Preparing For Change In Your Life

Many things may make you stare into open space wishing and hoping, maybe praying for renewed strength. You may feel stuck and can’t move, finding yourself immobile against this imaginary tide that strikes you. Have you ever stood in the ocean waiting for a large wave to breach only to have it hit you and push you over? Sometimes life feels this way. Change is inevitable.

Preparing for a life change may mean just becoming aware and accepting change is necessary. Have you or do you want to create changes? You may not even know what the change is or needs to be.  You just know moving on would be easier if you could just release or sidestep the unavoidable fears and emotions.

Did you ever have that dream where you can’t move? You try to move your arm or leg and it wont go! As if someone or something is pinning you down. Then you wake up confused to the weird and